Single Daughters & Silent Fathers
Below you will find the books, blogs and references discussed in the interview.
The Interview was inspired by the post Avoid This Pitfall Before You Say I Do.
This post addressed the three truths below. For each truth I referenced a blog post that dealt with those areas.
TRUTH # 1: MY HUSBAND IS NOT MY FATHER
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Book Reference
Bringing Up Girls by Dr. James Dobson
Captivating: Unveiling the Mysteries of a Woman’s Soul by John and Stasi Eldredge
TRUTH #2: I MUST FORGIVE MY DAD OR IT WILL IMPACT MY MARITAL RELATIONSHIP
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Book Reference
Always Daddy’s Girl by H. Norman Wright
TRUTH # 3: I MUST LOOK TO GOD TO MEET MY NEEDS AND NOT MY HUSBAND
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Types of Fatherlessness
The statistics I quoted were taken from the National Fatherhood Initiative.
The three ways a woman is fatherless came from Iyanla Vanzant on Oprah Winfrey’s Life Class on Daddylessdaughters.
Behaviors of Women Who Grew Up Without the Love and Affirmation of Their Fathers
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Promiscuity
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Message Series
The New Rules of Love Sex and Dating by Andy Stanley
Book Reference
The New Rules of Love Sex and Dating by Andy Stanley
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Low Self Esteem/ The Uns /Insecurity/ Neediness
The 7 “Uns” of Daddyless Daughter Oprah Winfrey’s Daddyless Daughter Lifeclass
Book Reference
So Long Insecurity by: Beth Moore
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Fear
Book Reference
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Anger / Rage / Resentment
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3 Lessons Learned From A Father’s Rejection
6 steps to Writing a Forgiveness Letter
Book Reference
Beauty For Ashes by: Joyce Meyers
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Non-sexual Relationships With Men
Book Reference
Always Daddy’s Girl by H. Norman Wright
Suggestions For Single Daughters Who Had Absent Fathers
1. Start With God
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– Salvation
– Time With God
– Know God as Father
See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him. 1 John 3:1 (NIV)
2. Grieve
“. . . A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn and a time to dance.” Ecclesiastes 3:4 (NIV)
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3. Forgive
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Mathew 6:14 (NIV)
– Forgive Yourself
-Forgive Your Dad
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3. Educate Yourself
How much better to get wisdom than gold, to get insight rather than silver! Proverbs 16:16 (NIV)
– Books
– Webisodes
4. Actively Pursue Health
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.I have a couple of diseases of the spine that cause chronic back pain, mainly in the lumbar region. And this pain hinders me to live a normal life. As a result, neurologists prescribed me Tramadol at https://mi-aimh.org/tramadol-online/, but I take pills as needed. The effect occurs after about half an hour and lasts 6 hours. Of course, this does not mean that I can do physical work, but I can at least visit a state institution, which we all have to visit periodically to process any documents.
Ecclesiastes 4: 9- 10 (NIV)
– Small Groups
– Support Groups
5. Renew Your Mind & Embrace Truth
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12: 2 (NIV)
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10: 5 (NIV)
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Low Self Esteem/ The Uns /Insecurity/ Neediness – spot on! Girls with no father’s tend to run to the wrong men to give them the attention they want. Such a terrible thing. We need more father’s to be the men for their girls need. Great post with so much truth.
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So true Anastasia, but even if our earthly fathers don’t provide the affirmation we need. Our Father in heaven is capable of filling that void for us. Thanks for joining the conversation today. Be blessed! – Kia
Kia,
I have stopped by your blog several times. Though I did not have an “absent” dad, I did have an emotionally aloof dad. I can relate to looking for a father’s love in my husband and I agree that that is a recipe for disaster…to expect a human man to fill the roll of loving Heavenly Father. Thank you for what a wonderful resource you provide for so many women who are searching for a relationship with their Heavenly Father (and have tried looking in all the wrong places). May God bless you richly for your honesty and candidness!!
Blessings to you this day,
Bev
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Bev, I so appreciate your words. An emotionally aloof dads wounds his daughter in different ways. My hope is that every woman, know matter the type of earthly dad she experienced, will find herself at the foot of the cross deriving our affirmation from HIM. Thanks for joining the conversation today and be blessed! – Kia
Wow, Kia. So much great information! I’m so glad you are talking about this topic head on. Keep writing, friend, and sharing transparently what God is teaching you. Happy to be visiting today!
Lisa Appelo @TrueandFaithful.net recently posted…Day 22: Eleven Rules for Hard Seasons
Thanks Lisa. I feel so passionate about this issue and how it impacts the life of a girl and a woman. I know you know first hand the impact a father’s absence has on his daughter’s life. I value your words and encouragement as I tackle this issue. Such a pleasure to have you join the conversation today. Be blessed! – Kia